April 12, 2015
I recently saw a book I read many, many years ago and bought a copy to bring to the office for people to review. This book was published in 1957. It is by Norman Vincent Peale. It’s entitled The Power of Positive Thinking. I pretty much think everyone in the company has a pretty positive attitude. Sure sometimes things can bring you down. That’s life. But every time I observe someone that I think is not having a “good day” I bring the book out and say, “Read the cover.” You really do not have to read the book, just read the cover. The title on the cover says it all. It usually brings a smile and just instantly let’s them admit that no matter how down they may feel, it isn’t a big deal.
It can sometimes be difficult to maintain a positive attitude. It does not matter if it is your personal or professional life, sometimes you just do not have the positive mojo you would like. In a lot of ways I think John F. Kennedy summed it up best: “Life’s unfair.”
So how do you maintain that positive attitude? What can help you get out of the funk? Eliminate the stinking thinking? Because no matter how hard it is, a positive attitude will see you through the toughest times.
First, you have to remember that YOU control your attitude. You determine if you are positive or negative thinker.
Keep in mind that a positive or negative attitude does not emerge from what happens to you, but develops from how you react to what happens to you.
Let say, for example, somebody is giving an old film camera. One person might think: “What an old piece of junk!”. Another might think: “How can I use this?” And finally, a third might think: “It’s a real memory piece on how things have changed in the photography world!”
The individual decides how to interpret the event, react to the moment, and respond. Therefore the person controls how they feels about it. In other words, their attitude toward it.
Second, create a personal internal library of positive thoughts. We usually get these from friends, family, mentors we have had in the past. One of my favors is “It’s mind over matter. I don’t mind and it doesn’t matter.”
Third, avoid negative media.
This is a biggie to me. Nothing can bring you down more than watching the news. I’m sorry… Some may say it is staying informed. Personally for me, I find it hard to watch the news and not feel a little down, upset, or depressed afterward. It is all just so negative. I selectively read on topics of interest. This includes news, but usually it is on business or hobby topics. This way I avoid the “over dramatic”, “world is ending” approach and sensationalism in today’s news media.
Fourth, ignore whiners and complainers.
We all know them. lol
As my 110% Southern momma would say, “That (fill in name here), bless their heart.” For the full affect you really needed to read that in your best deep Southern accent. 🙂
How many times have you unfriended a person, or seriously thought of unfriending a person, on Facebook because you just got tried of reading how terrible their life is? They would prefer writing about what’s wrong than make things better.
Finally, use a more positive vocabulary.
The words that come out of your mouth reflects what is in your brain. These words train your brain how to think. So to have a positive attitude, have a positive vocabulary.
Use “I can!” instead of “I can’t!”
Use “I’m doing great!” instead of “I’m doing OK.”
Maintaining a positive attitude all the time is probably not realistic. But admit it. When you are in a positive state of mind things do seem a lot better.
Have a great day! I am. 🙂